Monday, December 13, 2010

Burdening Others with my Tears

Have you ever gotten a vibe that unless you have good things to say- or bad things to say but with a frightening unnatural giggle, that your opinion is not wanted?  I will say this, my mom, dad, grandparents, etc never really wanted much to hear what I had to say if I was moaning and groaning... which i understand very well, having a pretty unhappy about most things daughter.  I am really hoping it is the age.  One thing it has done is really made me not ever have much to say that was "negative" in conversation unless I could then make a joke or follow it up with a "but that's ok!" in  my most-perfected cheerleading voice.  Anyway, that is where this blog comes in.  I really do not trust a lot of people with my thoughts and struggles... which is weird, I know since my blog is all out there on the world-wide web and all, BUT!  I really do not think about people ever reading this.  In fact, sometimes, I am super-shocked when someone says, "I read on your blog..." Ah! I feel like I was caught in my underware- which are not NEARLY as attractive as they were a couple years ago, so I feel embarrassed AND humiliated.

But that's ok!

No, really, it is, because I have had nothing but kindness come from these exchanges.  Well, not counting certain people who no longer visit, so I am safe there.

Anyway, my life is stressful! I would get into why but I don't want to write a list, I was going through "the list" at work today in my mind and I got so upset that I started crying and left without finishing up what I had planned to do today.  I could not think straight at all.  I thought, now... sniff... what was I going to do next... sniff... NOTHING?? Ok, I am outta here then!

  It isn't that I shouldn't be upset about what is upsetting me, but none the less, my upset makes me feel ashamed.

I feel so alone.  On the one hand, I feel like I have truly the.most.amazing. friends.  I really do, but I am so hesitant to share with them because of the whole embarrassed AND humiliated issue. I want to only share happy things and tell them some good news, for once.

Instead...

I am scared for the first time of my adult life.  We are talking migranes, vomiting, sleepless, downright SCARED.  I do not like this one bit.  Where is my respite? Where is my worth it in the end? Where are... my pillow and warm feet?

2 comments:

Eve said...

You have very valid reasons for being scared. And you should be able to share your fears in the ways that make you most comfortable--whether that be calling and sharing directly--or writing out your feelings on your blog. Please know you can always call me. You are a wonderful amazing person and you shouldn't ever feel alone. You are in my heart always.

Anonymous said...

Hugs and prayers Crystal. I feel that same way about my facebook =( which is why I have resorted to going back and deleting most everything after I post it =(