Well, that is something I dont think that there is any one answer to, for certain. But I know this. All my life, I have recognized people around me who are kind, loving, good... and I have watched them, hoping to be more like them. I have done this my entire life long.
I remember being a little girl watching mom's at the park. I watched them hug their children, push them on the swing, catch them at the end of the slide... I took note.
I watched my teachers share their lunches, give away clothing, offer encouragement.
I watched my CASA worker in her kindness to my brothers and I. she often would take us to Dairy Queen.
The therapist we saw celebrated my brothers' and my academic accomplishments.
I learned through them and others.
How to treat people.
How to build them up.
How to live.
All my life, I have built on these stories to write my own.
I suppose I saw all these happy, healthy, successful people and many of them showed me kindness- that gave me promise. I am not sure there is "an" answer, but if there is, I ended up ok because of the people around me who loved me and gave me hope. Most of these people owed me nothing. They were not often my family. They were just kind, good. Those people gave me the strength and encouragement and the advise that have led me to a place that I am (mostly) ok.
Recently, I have been in a curious situation. I am giving a lot of life advise to a good friend. What is remarkable is how much I need to take and live my own advise.
To define why I am worth an effort. (and NO person should EVER put themself in a position to be effortless for another person).
To love myself and not need the affirmation from any other person.
To not become dangerously attached.
It is nice, for the first time, to learn through myself.
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Amazing insights there
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