And how missionary work prepares our members for success. I totally know that is true!!
I LOVED IT!!! Until the last five seconds...
... It is that narrow view- which typically means not working outside the home after a child is born, and sometimes at the first sign of pregnancy - that has earned me TWO (count 'em!) friends in the last three years in my ward ;-) There is a certain supposition as to why I am a career woman that makes other people a tad judgemental toward me and I am a GREAT mom with EXCELLENT focus on my family. Honestly, as a family, we are going to be ok because I do work and God has smiled on me and my desire to provide my family with something other than mere existance ;-)
There is not one answer for things, and believe me, I wanted to believe there was. I had to be absolutely convinced about my role- and re-defining myself- in the last three years. It was very hard, but definitely not something for which people should not be my friend '-)
Other than that, I LOVED the story~
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If you read Proverbs 31 about the virtuous woman, it is apparent that God's ideal for a woman may include working outside the home. It does not include idleness, rather industry both at home and in the community. You are not working just to get things but mostly because you need to. It would be wrong to not pay your bills or to let your ward pay them when you have the ability to work and excellent care for your child. You enjoy your work, but there is no question in my mind but that your family comes first. If anyone in your church is not your friend just because you are a working mother,it is their loss, but I hope you can love on them anyway. Jesus would.
I totally agree with those thoughts... and would expand it to accepting welfare while being fully able to work. That is the thing that irks the living daylights out of me!!
That was a great story!! Up until 2 years ago I was a working mom and luckily I never experienced the discrimination that your have (or maybe I did but I'm just oblivious). I just think it is terrible that someone wouldn't be your friend just because you work, it's absolutely crazy!! I can totally see that happening in Utah, or some other place with a really high mormon population. It's crazy to me that it has happened to you so far from Utah!
Becky- one thing is really interesting- in Charlottesville everyone WAS from Utah and just there for Medical School, Law School, Buisness School or whatever... I was always like how on EARTH are they surviving with the dad in school and the wife home with 2 kids not working... Then someone let me in on the secret- welfare and I was (am) horrified.
Here, it is a lot the same- transient stage or people moving here so work/teach at JMU. I had one woman say "well, I could afford a NICE CAR if I did not value raising my children... " nice. (and my car is a 2004)
and then "hey mom ________ said her mom thinks you are a feminist and that that is not how women in the church should be." even nicer.
Wow...I'm just thinking of all my good responses to those statements!! That explains it if everyone in your ward was from Utah ;) Not that everyone from Utah is like that, but people sort of live in their own unique bubble there and don't really get how the rest of the world works.
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